For the woman who is tired of restraining the largeness you feel on the inside.

What if, instead of restraining it, you allowed it? Trusted that it was meant for good?

Imagine the world you would create.

Yes, that.

For years, I confused being strong with being powerful.

Feel that for a minute. Where does “strong” sit in your body? How does it feel?

Now: think of ''powerful.” Where does that sit? How does that feel?

Strong is the motor I was running. This is how I got stuff done.

What I needed to learn was to live from my power, not my strength.

But first, I needed to see how I was dancing with power. It was always outside of myself. I would look for the most powerful person in the room and dance with that. It was how I’d learn to keep myself safe. Years of conditioning; and honestly, a generational pattern in my lineage.

Once I saw it, I could not unsee it.

It ran through all my relationships with power.

The one that surprized me most? My relationship with the Divine. I noticed how I would defer. How I would not trust my own instinct, my own voice.

The more I released the ideas of a male, hierarchical god, the more there was an invitation to a different way of relating to the Divine.

Over and over, she would ask me, What do YOU want?

I began to learn to trust my longings. My desire. I began to be honest about what I truly wanted.

The question that broke open my life was this: If I had 20-30 healthy years to live, is this how I wanted to live?

My world on the outside did not match who I felt like on the inside.

First, I left my marriage.

I left the home we’d created together.

It was the hardest and scariest thing I’ve ever done.

But I also knew if I stayed, I would be abandoning myself. I couldn’t do that.

So, I was the woman who rented a basement in Vancouver for 9 months. But I also returned to South Africa, traveled and worked in East Africa, and walked on the beach in Cape Town.

I trusted the process.

I noticed how my fears were the places I was still stuck. They were the exact direction I needed to walk towards.

My biggest fear was finances.

This, too, was a relationship with power.

This journey invited me to live from my own powerful inner Self.

I call her my inner Lioness.

She is rooted. Grounded.

Powerful.

She is also sensual, playful, sovereign.

I have walked with women for over 20 years.

My biggest joy is to accompany women who have this largeness on the inside, but whose lives don’t quite match it yet.

Here’s the thing: your whole life, you were likely told to tone it down.

Not to want so much.

To not BE so much.

To settle down a bit.

To shush.

A part of you learned that you needed to restrain that powerful life force. Instead of learning to hone it.

You are powerful for a reason. Not just strong. Powerful.

Your dreams are not selfish. They are the way you are meant to love this world.

All of those hopes and dreams still on the inside—everything that feels like audacity—are meant to build a more beautiful world on the inside.

Some of the women I have worked with:

Some of the women I have worked with now live as artists, creating art that nourishes people around the world.

Many have written books—books that have shifted our world, and our understanding of things. Their ideas have literally created paradigm shifts. One woman (who’s now written four books) was wondering, Who am I to write a book?

Other women have become priests. Their daily life is to care for the soul of the world, one person at a time.

Another woman launched a podcast that is breaking the stigma around mental health. When she spoke at a major conference recently, she received a standing ovation. But there was a time, when she thought her dream was too audacious. She told me, Who am I to start a podcast?

Another woman started a life-changing non-profit organization that is shifting how women and girls are valued in India. But there was a time when she wondered, Who am I to start this nonprofit?

How different our world would be if these women gave in to the voices that kept telling them to shrink.

You, too, are here to love the world in the only way you can.

You are here to create what only YOU can create. Being who only YOU can be.

You deserve someone who believes in your dreams.

Someone who sees that largeness inside you and believes in you, and the world those dreams are meant to shape.

No, this is not selfish.

In fact, it’s the opposite. It’s you finally saying yes to you.

That is the beginning. A tiny revolution that begins to set things in motion.

I can’t wait to walk with you.